I’m often assumed to be a guy offline as well, due to my short hair, lack of skirts & dresses & makeup, along with only wearing pants with pockets so I never wear a purse. My chest makes it clear my gender, though.
Except I have decades of experience that show people look at your hair first because I get misgendered *all the time* for male. It doesn’t bother me - people should pay more attention than one trait to figure out who a person is. However, it tells me a lot about the people who misgender me, and most of it is bad. The stuttering and apologizes they give me show very clearly how they hold tight to traditional gender norms.
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Except I have decades of experience that show people look at your hair first because I get misgendered *all the time* for male. It doesn’t bother me - people should pay more attention than one trait to figure out who a person is. However, it tells me a lot about the people who misgender me, and most of it is bad. The stuttering and apologizes they give me show very clearly how they hold tight to traditional gender norms.